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Posted by Coold

Hello aunty ji
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Aj apki help ki jrurt h .ho ske to jldi ans kijiyega

Baat ye h ki meri sister ka kisi ldke se relationship chal raha tha jo us se 2 saal chota h aur hme kisi ne 2 saal bad btaya ki tumari ldki bhagne wali h. Jb hmne apni sis se pucha to kahti h asa kuch ni h. .but bad me accpt kr liya ki bhagne nhi wali thi bt shadi krna chahti hu ldka acha h government job h aur salary jyda h .smjhdar h bs caste alg h .tb hum sb ne emotional blackmail kia aur mna kra diya sb mna liya ldki ko ki na kre shadi .ldki ne ldke ko bhi bol diya ki aj k bad msg na krna .aur wo ldke ka last reply ye tha hmare liye ki koi rok ni skta shadi ko bs m izzat nhi uchalna chahta ..aur koi jrurt ho kaam ho to btana aur msgs call nhi krunga
Fr hmne ladki (meri sis) ko smjha k vishwash krke bheja job p phone diya .
Wo gumsum rahne lgi aur shuru m bolti thi ki usi s krungi bt hme nhi pta tha dimag me kya chal rha h .daily bhajan sunti thi aur study m mast lekin chup jyda rahti thi baat km. Mai daily phone check krta lekin kuch na milta.

Aj 1 mahine baad 6 bje sham ko call ayi jb uske ghr aane ka tym tha
Mujhe kahti h - bhai mne usi se shadi krli h aur ghr m smbhal liyo .mai police protection me hu iss jgh..hum rote hue gye
Fr police ko btaya sb aur bole ki ldki bolegi to milwa denge ,lekin waha p ldki ne mna kr diya ki 30 ko court me milna aur m khush hu.
Meri mother ne phle bht ro k usko smjhana chaha aur maani nhi to uski side hone ka socha h hum sb ne,kyu ki hum apne ghr se vida krna chahte h .usme bhi aana kani kar rahe the dono.bdi mushkil se maane h hme raji dekh k.kahta h ldka mujhse ki ap kah k baat kro ,jija hu apka m..mne apko tu word nhi bola aur apki bahen aayi thi mere pas ki bcha lo mujhe mar denge mar jaungi .tb mne iski jaan bchai aur meri izzat gyi h iss chakkr me to ghr p aa jana reception pr.aur uski kuch baate bcho wali h aur mzburi me hmne haa kari hui h har baat k liye ..
Ab hme court bulaya h ek hafte baad ..to btao ki hme waha ja k kya krna chahiye?

Khilaf to nhi h bs ldki ghr se vida krna chahte h hum

Coold
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Coold puttar,
Mainn samaj sakti hun, tum tension main ho. Lekin agr tumhari behen aur woh ladka dono 18 saal se upar hain - to tum log usko kanooni taur pe to rok nahi sakte. Meri salah to yahi hai ki apni behen ko dil se apna lo. Jo hua so hua - rok ke to tumne dekh liye lekin uska dil uss ladke ke saath he hai. Isliye usko apni life apni marzi se jeene ka hakk hai. So usko maaf kar do - aur dil se apna lo. Kyunki uski life koi zyada asaan nahi hone wali hai!

Ho sakta hai uska bf mentally ready he nahi tha shaadi ke liye lekin ab ho gayi shaadi - to baad mein usko realise ho ki jaldbaazi main uska galat kadam uthaya. Fir tumhari behen chah kar bhi tumko contact nahi kar payegi kissi bhi musibat main agar woh padti hai. Kahan jayegi woh agar in laws ke saath usko future main koi problem aati hai?

So uske liye wapis aane ka raasta zaroor open rakho. Usko confidence dilao ki jo hua, hua. Ab tum uske saath ho. Agar woh baat nahi karti to police station ke thru baat karo. Unko bolo tumhara message pahuchane ke liye. Aur usko court case ya complaint wapis lene ko bolo. Kyunki yeh to ghar wali baat hai! Agar ghar main be sulajh jaye to theek hai.

Lekin agar aisa nahi hota hai - to tum court main ja kar bol sakte ho ki haan tum log caste ki wajah se shaadi ke khilaf the, lekin ab agar tumhari behen uss ladke ke saath he rehna chahti hai to tum lpgon lo koi aitraj nahi hai.Balki tum court main yeh bol sakte ho ki tum apni behen ki shaadi poore vidhi vidhaan se karna chahte ho - khushi se 0 aur usko ghar se vida karna chahte ho. Uski khushi main tumhari khushi hai - yeh tum ab maante ho!.

Lekin iske liye tumhe san family members se baat karna hoga. Kya woh iss baat ke liye ready hain? Tumhare parents specially. So unko samjhao ki jo hua, hua, usko apnane ka socho. Kyunki agar tum log nahi apnaoge to woh kuch mahino baad- jab uska pyar ka josh thoda thanda pad jayega - tab woh apne aap ko bahut akela mehsoos karegi uss ghar mein.. Kissi bhi stress main hogi to kisse baat karegi. Abhi woh josh main hai. Court jaana chahti hain. Lekin 4-5 mahine baad sthithi same nahi rahegi. Jab zindagi ki aur shahishuda life ki sachhai saamne aayegi - ki shaadi ke baad life itni asaan nahi hai - tab woh apni family ko zaroor miss karegi!

Ek baar ladke aur uske parents se bhi mil ke baat karne ki ichha rakho. Ho sake to usko bolo ki tum milna chahhte ho... Jo hua so hua. ab aage dono familes ka rishta kaise bana rahe, ispe baat karo. All the best. Sab dheere dheere theek ho jayega.

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Apki baat thik lgi and thank you so much.
Lekin ek baat puchna chahta hu ki ase bhi koi kaise kar skti h wo bhi ladki ...ki maa roye ja rahi h aur hath jod rahi h aur usko frq nhi pd rha..na hi apna pita k liye na hmare liye .aj wo ladka sab kuch ho gya.dil dukhta h bahut .aur hum mjbur h ha me ha milane ko aur jsa ap ne bola h wsa hi karenge

Coold
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Ek mn ye bhi kr raha h ki court na jau mai aur jo hoga dekha jyga..mere samne hmesha chup rahti thi aur m bhi same kru agr .kyu ki pyr to mr chuka h bhai wala.. rakhi kbhi nhi bndhwa skta ab. Galat kaam ki gawahi nhi de rha dil ..galt kaam ka sath dene ka mn nhi krta mera

Coold
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Coold puttar,
Ab situation kaise hai? Sorry maine abhi dekhe messages tumhare. Arre bhai behen ka rishta aise nahi tootta. Woh choti hai, abhi pyar main hai, abhi uska josh naya hai - aise main family bhi dushman lagti hai apni! Lekin jaise jaise time beetega usko ehsaah hoga ki tum log uske liye kitna kuch chahte ho, kitna pyar karte ho - tab woh tumhe zaroor yaad karegi! Ho he nahi sakta ki itne salon ka rishta aise he khatam ho jaye! Aur karna bhi matt! Abhi usko samjhane ka koi fayda nahi hai. Usse kam se kam baat karo tum log - aur tumhare parents bhi. Kuch months baad apni sthithi batana. Abhi usko apne haal pe rehne do! Dheere dheere sab theek ho jayega !

Auntyji