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Posted by Coold

Hello aunty ji
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Mai apko btana chahta hu ki suddenly meri gf ke nature me change aa jata h bar bar. Jbki shadi ki baat hone wali h .uske ghr me uske father ke alawa sabko pta h ye baat aur mere ghr me bhi same to same. Sab kuch acha ja raha tha ki kal wo kahne lagi ki mujhe shadi se pahle successful hona h,apna ghr bnana h kyu ki jo hai abhi usme kuch hissa chacha ka hai toh kya pta wo kab maang le. Mai loan le k ya kse bhi spne pure krna chahti hu .uske father bhi agree ho gye ki le le loan aur kl ko teri shadi me bhi kaam aa jayega toh wo chid gyi ki shadi ki baat na kro abhi aur isi topic pr mujhse bhi bahut negetive baate ho gyi to mne khub smjhaya aur kl to topic khtm ho gya tha lekin aj abhi nature rukha rukha sa h ,baat to ho rahi h lekin morning wish krne me wo pyar nahi aur baato me bhi . Lekin mne apni bhai ko bola ki tu baat kr. Toh uss se to ase baat kr ri h jse bhabhi ho uski aur bhi bhabhi bol k baat kr ra h aur ye shadi krke aane ko bhi ready h. Bato se pta chala aur meri tarif bhi kr rahi thi aur us se sb share kar rahi ki jldi aaungi .lekin mere sath negetive boli .

Coold
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Coold puttar,
Hmm, mamla thoda confusing to hai. Dekho agar woh suceesful hona chahti hai aur apna ghar banana chahti hai toyeh bahut achhi baat hai. Usko bolo ki tum uske saath ho iss maamle main ( agar tum agree karte ho) aur aage bhi tum usko full support karoge. Ho sakta hai woh thodi stress main ho loan lene ke baare main aur ghar banane ke baare main - to shayad iss liye chidh gayi ho? Kuch din ya weeks usse tum shaadi ke baare main bilkul bhi baat mat karo.
Lekin kuch hafton baad jab wo normal ho jaye, stress main na ho aur pehle jaisee ho - to usse fir se baat karo aur bolo ki kam se kam woh tumko yeh clear kar de ki kya woh aage chal ke tum se shaadi karna chahti hai ya nahi. Aur agar haan to tumko kitni der wait karna hoga. Agar nahi to kya tum shaadi ki koi ummed na rakho usse? Yeh sab batein abhi kuch hafton baad karo usse. Abhi nahi. Bilkul pyar se, bina kissi arguments ke, usse yeh baat karo.

Kya woh job karti hai? Agar haan to woh shaadi ke baad bhi woh job kar ke apne sapne - ghar banane ke poore kar sakti hai - tum yeh batao usko. Aur yeh bhi bolo ki jab woh chahe tab marriage kar sakte hain. Koi pressure mat do usko. Tum usko iss baat ka trust dilao ki tum usko shaadi ke baad bhi ghar ke kaam main poora support karoge.

I am sure woh sirf stressed hai aur pareshan hai apni situation se. Tum kuch din usko space do. Roz calls mat karo. Aur thode din usko usse apne haal pe rehne do. I am sure woh kuch din baad tumko miss karegi aur jaldi he normal ho jayegi jab uska stress kam hoga. Yeh bhi padh lein - https://lovematters.in/hi/tanaav-main-rishton-ko-kaise-manage-karein

Auntyji
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Aunty ji
Thank you so much for your reply.

Ap ne jsa bola mne wsa hi kia,next day se uska mood thik hona khud start ho gya tha aur evening tak pahle jsi ho gyi aur mne uski mummy ko bhi btayi ye baat call krke aur uski mummy ne bhi smjhaya mujhe ki stress ke karan hoga ye sb bs .aur ab phle jsa normal h sb .lekin mere puchne pr kahti h ki abhi b wahi baat h fmly k liye.toh mne bhi har baat me support krna shuru kr diya jisme mna krta tha aur ab hpy h wo .har thode din m ek din k liye iska mind ase hi ho jata h jse kuch ni krna n all dur jana h sbse .fir wapis normal ho jati h aur mujhe iske liye hard work krna pdta h .smjhdar to bht h .baki apki baato ko bhi mne follow kiya aur iss se mujhe har problem me ache results milte h .apka bht bht dhanywaad .. ☺️

Coold
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Ye ek asa platform h jaha mai wo baat bhi share krke prblms ka solution nikaal leta hu jo mai kisi ko bta bhi nahi skta ,jisme ap ne meri bahut help ki h. Dil se thank you ☺️you are my secret dairy and very kind person and dil se dua niklti h ap ke liye bhi .kyu ki apki wjh se mai fr se smile krne lgta hu har bar

Coold
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Coold puttar,
So happy for you both! Wish you all the best for the future!

Auntyji