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Posted by ankit6373

hello mam
mai bhot pareshan ho gya hun apni ek behan ke vajah se ye kuch sal puarani bat hain ek din mai apna sara kam khatam kar ke mai jab bohot gehri nend mai so raha hai tha or meri ek ralative behan mere ghar ayi hui thi mujhe nahi pata tha ki vo mere kamre mai kab ayi par jab mujhe hos aya to mene dekha ki vo mere sath galat harkat kar rahi hai jab mai dar gya or mene kuch nahi bola mai dar gya mujme itni samj nahi thi ki mai apni mami ko bta du ki ye mere sath galt harkat kar rahi hai mai aj tak har jagah apne dosto ke bich bhi hamesa sabse sariph logo mai hi hun mere teachers ne kabhi meri koi shikayat nahi ki par aj bhi us bat se ki meri behan ne mere sath kya kiya use bhul nahi par raha hun usi vajah se us din ke bad se mene us se bat bhi nahi ki us se ladna bhi suru kar diya vo hamare ghar ati hai to bat bhi nahi ki mene aj tak us se.par mera man aj tak is bat ko meri hi galti manta hai mai bohot pachtata hun ki kash us din mene apni mami ko awaj lga di hoti to vo ladki mere sath aisa kabhi nahi kar pati mera man is sachai ko ki mene meri hi behan ne mere hi sath aisa kiya ise man par hi nahi pa raha or ise vajah se mai boht pareshan hun mai is bat ko apni mami ko bhi batana chahta hun par mai darta hun ki kanhi meri itni achi image jo mene itni mehnat se banayi hai kharab na hojaye or kanhi meri hi maa mujse naphrat na karne lage

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ankit6373 puttar, Sab se pehle to yeh baat apne dimag se nikal do ki galti tumhari hee thi. Mujhe nahi pata usne kya kia tumhare saath aur tumne kya respond kia - lekin agar tumhe bura lag raha hai aur guilty feel ho raha hai - to please apni maa se baat karo. Dekho hamare saath jab bhi kuch galat ho raha hota hai - tab uss waqt hume samajh nahi aata ki hum kaise react karein, kya karein, kya nahi..yeh nnormal reaction hai. Aisa sabke saath hota hai. Tum akele nahi ho jo aisa feel kar raha hai ki kaash maine aisa kar diya hota - kaash mainne mummy ko bula liya hota etc.

Uss waqt jab yeh ghatna ghati - tab tum shayd shock main the. Kuch react nahi kar paye. Aaj jab iske baare main sochte ho to aisa lagta hai ki yeh galat hua tumhare saath. So apne aap ko kasoorwar mat samjho. Mummy se share karne se pehle - Apne kissi bade bhai ya behen ya koi bhi bharosemand aadmi se share karo - jaise ki koi cousin ya koi ghar ka bada. Usse bhi salah lo.

uske baad tum dono mil kar apni maa se baat kar sakte ho. I am sure woh tum se nafrat nahi - karengi. Maa baap kabhi bachonn se nafrat nahi karte. Haan ho sakta hai woh thoda shock ho jayein, kuch daant lagayein ki ab kyu bata rahe ho - to tum bol sakteho ki main darr gaya tha. Main bahut pareshan tha ki aap kya sochogi. Lekin aapko nna bata ke mujhe bahut bechaini ho rahi hai. Main pareshan hun! Issliye aapko bata raha hun!

All the best. yeh bhi padho zara - https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/sexual-harassment/my-un...

Auntyji