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Posted by Aahira

Hello mam , me apne bf k sth 6 year se relationship me hu , aur me unse bht zyada pyar krti hu mene aj tk unhe dhoka nhi diya na unse phle koi tha na hai , wo phle mjhse bht pyr krte the achi achi bte krna bht ache se rhte the wo mere sth br br i love u khna mjhe pamper krna but kafi time se pchle 3 4 sal se wo bht bdl gye aur last 1 dedh sal se to kafi bdl gye chidte h wo mjhse bht meri hr bt se chidna gussa krna mjh pr hr bt pr nrz hna or me unse i love u khti hu to jawab ni dete khte h ab mera mn nhi hota , phle shdi k bd ye krnge wo krnge bht planning krte the but ab kbhi me kehti hu shdi ka to khte h tm nhi kr paogi to kbhi kehte h mjhe ni krna shdi tmse , shdi ko full ignore kr dete h wo . Phle meri hr tklif unhe bht taklif deti thi but ab mjhe kch bhi hota rhta h wo zyada dhyan ni dete . Me kya kru plz mujhe bataiye me unhe kho ni skti me unhe lekr bht zyada obsess hu plz help me

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Aahira puttar,
oh yeh to bilkul theek nahi lag raha. Mere khayal se beta woh ab iss rishte main interested nahi hai - wajah kuch bhi ho - lekin jo tumne bataya - ek baat to clear hai ki woh iss rishte ko aage continue nahi karna chahta hai. Muje bahut dukh ho raha hai yeh kenhe main puttar lekin mujhe jaisa laga, maine waise bataya tere ko. To ab tum kya kar sakti ho?
Dekho beta - sab se pehle to to tum usse bolo ki tumhe usse milna hai aur baat karni hai. Filhaal ke liye usse har roz call mat karo - na he i love you bolo - aur na hee shaadi ke bare main kuch bolo - sab batein band kar do. Apni self -respect ke bare main socho- koi aisa insaan jo tumhe ignore kar raha hai - please uske aage mat jhuko. I know, mushkil hai - tum usse bahut pyar karti ho - par beta jab tak tum apni respect nahi karogi - woh bhi tumhari respect nahi karega. Sirf usse yeh kaho ki tum usse milna chahti ho. Jab woh milne ke liye raazi ho jaye to tum usse yeh poocho ki woh aisa kyun kar raha hai - aamne saamne - face to face - bilkul bhi yeh baat phone pe mat karna - ek doosre ke saamne he karna. Agar woh doosre shehar main rehta hai to VIDEO Call pe karo yeh baat. Lekin phone pe nahi. Serious tareke se. Koi rone ki zaroorat nahi hai, koi emotional mat hona - simple, seedhe tareeke se usse yeh poocho ki woh tumhare saath aisa bartav kyun kar raha hai - kya wajah hai - wajah jaana zaroori hai.
Uski baat zyada suno aur apni kam kehna. Strong bannna. Emotionally weak mat hona. Aur Rona to bilkul bhi nahi - Woh tumno iss tarah se ignore kar raha hai to please tum gigidana nahi - kamjor mat padna. Sirf seedhee baat karna - wajah jaana.
Wajah jaane ke baad tum dono discuss karna ki kya uss wajah ko/problem ko solve kiya ja sakta hai? Kya aisa kuch hai jo usko nahi achha lag raha aur tum ya woh usko theek kar sakte ho - taaki tum dono ka rishta pehle jaisa ho jaye?
Agar haan to usko explore karo. Aur uss pe kaam karo.
Agar nahi - koi khaas wajah he nahi hai - aur woh bas bahane bana ke tum se door jana chahta hai - to beta theek to yahi rahega ki tum bhi aage badho - aur aise person ko importance mat do - jiski life main tumhare liye koi jagah nahi hai. Lekin yeh batein baad main - pehle tum dono baat karo - https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/how-to-mend...

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Mam ye me bht bar kr chuki hu face 2 face bt pr wo ek dam switch kr jate h kbhi to bht pyr se bt krna lekin zyadatar srf chidna ladna aur nrz rhna ek rukhapan sa h unke behavior me , bht zyada pyr jatate h kbhi kbhi . Aur unse bt krna bnd krdo to khud se call krnge bht achi achi bte krnge mazk krnge but ek dam se bht rukhapan se ajata h un me . Me kya kru mam me unke bina 1 din apni life nhi sch skti me bht zyda sensitive hu . Aur meri life ka shuru se clear funda hai phla aur akhri pyr wala bs agr wo nhi to koi bhi ni . Bht mam problem h ye h me unse bht pyr krti hu but mjhe jtna me deserve krti hu uska 25% bhi aj tk nhi mila . Wo mujhe bht for granted lete hai mtlb mera hona na hona ek brabr h . Me confuse isliye ho jati hu ek pal me pyr dusre hi pal wese hi chidna gussa rukhapan jese ko wo interested hi na ho btaiye me kya kru ?

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Aahira puttar,
yeh to chinta wali baat hai - jab tum usse karan poochti ho - ki woh aisa kyu karta hai, to uska kya jawab hota hai? Kya reason deta hai woh.

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Unke hr bar alag se reason hote hai , kbhi kehte hai me nhi reh skta tmhre sth , kbhi kehte h tm nhi reh paogi mere sth , kbhi kehte h me uljha hua hu bht isliye shdi nhi kr skta , kbhi kehte h krna ho to bs kl krlo shdi ab unke bht zyada mood swings hai . Ab wo aj kal bht zyada sweet h bht pyar jata rhe h .
Actually hai to wo bht uljhn me abhi financial problem chl rhi hai kch karza h un pr usko lekr thode tension me hai

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Aahira puttar,
Haan yeh to tension wali baat hai. Maybe tum usse yeh bol sakti ho ki tum stress mat lo - ek salah dungi - tum dono agar chaho to court marriage kar sakte ho - Shaadi se pehle koi job dhundh lo - agar tum job nahi karti already - Uski madad kar sakti ho financially agar to usko bhi achha lagega? Shaadi ke baad tum dono mil kar karza chuka sakte ho - Tum apni job se paise ki madad kar sakti ho. Lekin beta iske liye bahut bada dil chahiye aur tumko bhi yeh sochna hoga ki kya tum aisa karna chahogi uske liye? It's tough. But just a thought. Aage tumhari marzi! Aur uski bhi! All the best!

Auntyji