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Posted by Shruti209

Hello Mam
My age is 34 (not married) working in private company.Last 6 years i did not get perfect partner. My landlord who is
divorced last 8 years wants to marry with me .His age is 53.His wife left him and their 3 child dont live with him.

1 Should i marry with him?
2 can i get perfect sex life?

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moderator love-matters
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Shruti209 puttar,
If you think that he is perfect for you and you both are compatible in almost all aspects, you both understand each other, he makes you laugh, makes you happy, and respects your independence and so do you - then it's ultimately your decision to marry him. You cal also try to be in a live-in relation with him, if you feel that's ok, and test this relationship for a couple of months before marrying him. Live with him as a couple, do things that a couple will do - having sex, managing the house, cooking for each other, working out financials, traveling etc. See how it goes. You will get most of your answers in a couple of months - including the ones to if your sex life would be perfect or not smiley

But do not do it for the sake of getting someone to marry you because you are single and everyone wants you to get married. Marriage or no marriage does not define a woman - it is how happy you are, how satisfied you are with your life. If you want to get married - do it for the right reasons. Not for the sake of getting married! Read this article here - https://lovematters.in/en/marriage/reasons-for-marriage

Auntyji
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According to you suggestion i am living with him .Now we are live in relationship.I didnot tell my family because he is divorcee and 19 years age gap.We have spent 2 days in a room.
1- He is trying to sex with me but his body active for one time oragasm.Then he tired. What should i do if i want more?

2- I want two time orgasm, is it wrong , should i do one time? How can he satisfied if i want more ?

3- He and his friends is planning to jaipur should i go with them? we are live in relationship.

moderator love-matters
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Shruti209 puttar,
Please be in a live in relations, only if your heart says so and you are mentally ready. Not because I told you. It was just a suggestion. But if you find my suggestion valuable. Then yes.

1. Regarding your question on orgasm and multiple orgasm, beta - with age, men may find it hard to keep up an erection. Not all men though and it also depends on lifestyle. If he is healthy and disease free, does not drink/smoke etc and exercises - he will not face so much of trouble in erection. So just give it some time and see how it goes.

2. No, it's not wrong to want more than one orgasm. Agar you feel the same, tell hi, Talk to him. A good relationship is the one where the partners can communicate openly with each other - bina sharam kiye hue. So please talk to him about your desires, tumko kya achha lagta hai, kaise achha lagta hai and what you want - in sex. See his reaction. Does he reciprocate to you in a positive way by trying to make you happy and give you more orgasms or ignores you?

3. Entirely up to you if you want to go to Jaipur with him. If you feel its too early and you are still new to him and still cant trust him - dont go then. Wait for the right time! Do read this article - https://lovematters.in/en/moving-in-together-dos-and-donts

Auntyji
moderator love-matters
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Shruti209 puttar,
Sorry, mujhe laga ki maine yeh question answer kar diya hai. Kuch problem hai shayad. Dobara post kar rahi hun

1. That's a good sign that he is taking care of his health.

2. A good relationship is like this only! It should make you feel happy! If he does so many things for you, you can also reciprocate by doing something good for him - like helping him in his work, cooking together etc

3. If you feel uncomfortable with his wife's stories, please tell this to him. Be open. Or change the topic.

4. No, it's not a problem. All good! Take care of yourself.

Auntyji