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Posted by NabnitK29

Hey, I'm new in my relationship. My girlfriend and I wish to get physically intimated very soon.
This is going to be the first time for both of us.

I wish to know which dates near her periods would be the best date to avoid conception, and also suggest me the proper way to use a pill in proper time.

Help on this (in Hindi or English) would be really appreciated!

moderator Mod_Satya

Dear Nabnit

Dont build up too much pressure on yourself or her, that it being the first time, must meet some kind of ISO 9001 standards. It has been seen that the best sex happens when both partner are free of such pressures and anxiety.

But, yes, both of you may learn about safe sex etc. beforehand and here are some relevant links - which you may read and discuss - because sex is a mutual thing. Right?


Talking about these topics can be challenging but really not difficult:

Re: contraception, this link shares useful information.. In our opinion, condom is the safest and easiest approach..

The method based on her dates is not a good one. It has a high failure rate. Unwanted 72 is only for emergency.
To be fully safe against unwanted pregnancy- condom plus some OC pill should be used: Saheli or Mala could be considered but they have to be started at least 2-3 week in advance. If you need help in choosing a contraceptive method, feel free to get in touch with a Government service provider for free services etc.

Best wishes and thanks for getting in touch..