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Posted by Rani201

I'm in an extramarital affair with someone since 5yrs. And I'm not able to come out of that. Whenever I'm trying he used to force me to stay in it. He is now totally controlling my life. He is my neighbour. Kindly suggest me some solution so that I can come out of it.

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moderator love-matters
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Rani201 puttar,
I completely understand your situation. It's very difficult and stressing. So first of all - let's understand this - does he have any pictures or messages of you with whom he is blackmailing you? I am sure he may be doing that. So please do not get scared and get some elder person or your friend or relative from your family in confidence and share your problem with them. Then go with them and confront that person. Look into his eyes and tell him that you are fed up of him and do not want any relationship with him. Let your person also threaten him that if he tries to do anything with you - he/she will go to the police and file a complaint against him. Then block that person from your life - COMPLETELY- from phone, from your life, social media, from everywhere. Block means block. No contact at all. And then if he still threats you - Go to the women's help line - 1091 and tell him address and phone number with name and everything to them. Tell his name, address, phone number to the police. The moment he will get a call from police - he will get scared - trust me. This thing i have seen happening with so many women - when they file a police complaint - the guy does think she is serious about stopping the relationship with him. He will never try to contact you again, trust me. He will get scared from police. Call the police from some other phone if you don't want from your number. Or write an email to them if you don't want to reveal your phone number. Once you call the police and write an email to them - they will have to act upon your complaint and have to call up this guy and threaten him. Trust me, it works. Tell police that you do not want your name or your phone number anywhere - give some friend's number to them for updates or tell them to email you. The police does help. If you want - then you can also try contacting - National Commission for Women - 011 2694 4805 . It is an organisation that helps women. http://ncw.nic.in/ email them. But above all - don't be scared. I am there with you. You can come out of it. You can talk to me anytime here - your aunty will always help you - in any hour of need. Please read this too - https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/what-to-do-if-your-part...
https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships/blackmail-in-relationsh...

Auntyji
moderator love-matters
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Rani201 puttar,
Hope you are doing good? Just checking in with you!

Auntyji