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Posted by Mahiya83

Mai boht tensn mai hu... Plz mje kch bataye k mai kya karu... Mera boyfriend hai wo handicapped hai magr mai ussey boht pyar krti hu.. Mai usse kabi khona nahi chahti.. Mai ussey shadi krna chahti hu....
Mai jab useey baat karti hu mai bhul jati hu k wo handicapped hai.. Magr mje Kabi kbi aisa lgta hai k mai uske sath reh k shayd apni life kharb krrhi hu... Waise to mje kbhi yaad nhi hota h k wo handicapped hai.. Lekin kabhi kbhi yaad aajata hai to mje bht dukh hota hai aur rotiii b boht hu.... Lekin kabi kbi usko dekhne k baad mera mann he nhi krta hai k usey baat kru... Lekin mai krleti hu... Mje smj nahi aata aisa mere sath kyu hota hai....

Aur mje ye nahi pta mai jo b sonchti hu kya wo sahi hai b yaa nahii....
Ab mai ye jaanaa chahti hu k kya mai usko chodd du yaa uske sath rahu... Waise mere liye usko chhhodna to boht mushkil hai.. Kyunki mai ussey boht pyar krti hu....

Toh ab ap plz meri help karein... Aur mje btaiye k mje kya krna chahiye... Plzzz i m really tense

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Mahiya83 Aapke sawal ke liye thanks. Hum ek baat kehna chahenge ki rishton mein khushi aapsi taal mel aur pyar se aati hain. Agar aap dono ke beech mein ye pyar, understanding, aur taal mel hain aur aap dono ek dusre ko samajhte hain aur khush rakh sakte hain toh isse badi baat aur koi nayee ho sakti.

Aap abhi iss barein mein soch rahi hai. Lekin maan leejiye kisi ki shaadi ke baad koi ek partner handicap ho jaata, toh kya hum unhe chodhne ki sochte ya fir maan lijiye unki jagah yadi handicap aap hoti?

Par ye bhi yaad rakhiye ki agar ye baat aap apne man se nahi nikal sakti aur ye aapke man mein hamesha khatakti rahegi ki aapke partner handicap hain toh ye aapke jeevan mein aage jakar mushkil paida kar sakta hai. Toh ek tareeke se acha hain ki aap iss baarein mein abho soch rah hai.

Aakhiri nirnay aapka hai. Par aapko ye sochna hoga ki aapki life mein kya zyada maayne rakhta hai. Aur jo bhi jyada mayne rakhta hain decision ussi hisaab se decision lein. Agar aapko lagta hain ki yeh cheez aap kabhi undekha nahi kar payengi toh, toh isse accept karne mein koi buri baat nahi. Ye aapki samjhdarri hogi ki aap apne aap ko behtar samjhte huye ek aisa decision le jisse future mein aapko aur unko dukh na pahuche. Toh ek baar chain se baith kar soche ki aapke kiye kya zaruri hain aur fir uske anusaar decision lein. Koi bhi decision sahi ya galat nahi hota. Jo aapke aur aapke partner ki long term zondigi ke liye behtar hain, woh karein.

Auntyji
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Hum dono k beech m pyar, understanding
Taal mel sab sahi hai.. Hum ek dusre ko khush rakh skte hai.. Problm to koi nahi hai hmare bichh...Bs kbi kbi aisa lgta hai mje...
Baki mai uske sath khush hu...

Ab aap mje btaye kya mai uska sath deduu hmesh k liye ye jane hue k wo handicap hai...

Ya phr mai usko chod du..
Magr mera dil nahi karrha k uskoo durr kruu apni life se...
Ap mje suggest kre mje kya krna chahiye
Plzzzz

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Dear Mmahiya.
Have you ever told any of your friends that he is your bf?
If not ,ask yourself whether you can tell your friends,your family or the society what you feel for him?
If not ..you got your answer...
If yes...if you can tell your family, friends,etc. About him..if his disability is no barrier to your love..then my dear go for it..
And remember the course of love is never smooth....
Hope it helps..

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Thanks a lot for the suggestions

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Verax ki baat badhiya lago aapki Aunty ko bhi. Ab sawal bas ye hain ki aap apne partner ki disability se kitna comfortable hain. Kyaa aap apne family aur doston ko khul kar bata sakti hain aur unka saath de sakti hain. Ha ya na se aapka future
decision tey hoga.

Auntyji