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Posted by Nisha234

Main ek ladke se two years se online friendship mein thi fir one year se hum long distance relationship mein hai ek doosre ko bhoot dil se pyaar krte hai shaadi Krna chahte hai hum kabhi mile nahi hai fir bhi voh ladka mujhse shaadi krne ko ready hai main bhi taiyar hoon uski family bhi maan jayegi lekin voh ladka low caste se hai meri family nahi manegi or mujhe baat krne mein bhi dar lg raha hai meri family castenism ko sab kuch manti hai or main or voh ladka family ke against shaadi nahi Krna chahte hai aunty plzzz help me

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Nisha234 beta
Dekho tumne jaise abhi mere se baat ki, waise ek baar apni family se baat to kar ke dekho. Ho Sakta hai tumhare parents tumhari baat samjhein. Agar tum apni maa se close ho ya kissi sister se, ya koi aur bade se - to un ko confidence main lo, un se apni problem share karo, aur unko bolo ki tumhare saath rahein jab tum parents se baat karo. Agar for bhi woh nahi maante beta, to faisla tumhara hai.

Theek hai aap inter caste shaadi chahtey hain. Ok! Lekin kyaa aap aur aapka bf, apne ghar waalon se Jonnjh sakenege? Kay aap dono saamna kar payenge … kal aapki mataji ne koi aisa kadam utha leey aya unke yahan kisi ne kuch kar leeya so kya ap log in sab haadson ko deal kar sakenege? Beta, yeh namumkin nahin lekin bahut hee mushkil hai. Iske parinaam saalon chal saktey hain… ghar se door, na khushi mein nag hum mein, na koi aana na ksis ka jaana- soch lo

Please koi bhi kadam uthane se pehle - jis mein caste, dharam, age, parents ka virodh jaisee stithi saamne aa rahee ho- apni family aur apne lawyer / vakeel/ local police thaane, aas-paas koi NGO se apne haq aur adhikaron ke baare mein poori jaankari lein.
Yadi koi kadam uthate hain - to uske kya parinaam kya ho sakte hain - sab pooch leejiye aur aapko aur family ko kiss-kiss stithi ke liye tayyar rehna hai - uski poori knowledge le leejiye.

Akhir baat - apki GF/ BF - jo bhi hain, unse ek - do baar poori tareh se baat kar leejiye - ki koi bhi kadma uthane se phele kya veh poori tareh ready hain. Kya veh samjhtey hain ki kya kya ho sakta hai - like, kidnap ka charge, rape ka charge, maata ya pita yadi maar peet karne lage, ya ann-shann, ya suicide ki dhamki - ya kisi ko heart attack aa jaaye - to kya veh yeh sab seh leynge - ya dheele padh jaayeinge?

Aap full force ke saath aage badh rahe hain - aur aapka saathi ghabra ke peeche hat jaye - to phir aapki poori planning reh jayegee. Is kism ke sab baatien sochiye - poochiye - jaankari leejiye - aur phir kadm utahiye.

Umeed hai, sab baatein clear ho chuki hain. Aapko, hum sab ki ore se - best of luck.
https://lovematters.in/en/news/inter-caste-marriages-top-five-facts
https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/love-marriages
https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/stuff-to-know-before-yo...
https://lovematters.in/en/marriage/eloping-top-five-facts

Auntyji
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Thank u so much auntie and maine apne partner se baat ki hai voh sab kuch face krne ko ready hai mere sath hai har situation mein lekin main pehle apne parents se baat krungi unko manane ki poori koshish krungi lekin agar voh nahi maane tab main jaise mere parents khenge vaise krungi kyonki parents ko takleef nahi dena chahte hum dono hi bhagwan na kre unnko agr hmari iss baat se kuch ho jaye hum mar jayenge mera manna hai jo apne parents ka nahi ho skta voh kisi or ka bhi nahi ho skta or aunty main or mere partner kabhi mile tak nahi hai so rape charge yah kidnap possible nahi hmare mid shaadi ke baad hi husband wife jaise relationship honge and aapne meri sahi decision lene mein bhoot help ki hai thanks alott aunty god bless u aunty

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Nisha234 beta,
All the best aapko bhi. Aap dono jo bhi faisla lo - aapke future ke liye achha ho smiley

Auntyji