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Posted by Deep55

Mam, m or Meri partner 7-8 year s relationship m hai...hm ek dusre s Shaadi krna chate hai par hmari caste alg alg hai ...par ldki k parents nhi man rhe hai Shaadi k liye wo khte hai hm dusri caste m nhi krenge Shaadi...m govt job m hu well settled hu family b settled in hai mere parents Shaadi k liye ready hai but ldki k nhi hai......kafi time s kosis KR rhi hai ldki man Jaye uske ghr wale bate ki hai pr koi response nhi mila.....abhi abhi ek dam s ldki ko job s ghr bulaya ek din k liye or rista fix krwa Diya khi or...uske parents k sath uske uncle aunty bhi hai Jo unko jayda influence krte hai or ldki k mna krne k bad bhi rista krwa Diya.....ab ldki bilkul kush nhi hai na hi wo kisi dusri family ko kush rkh payegi ...wo bht dar gyi hai is situation s wo mna krna chati hai riste ko or kse kre smj nhi AA RHA hme....wo fir kse uske parents ko mnaye... please mam help us

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Dear Deep55,
Dost yeh kuch pechida stithi lag rahi hain. Yadi aap settled hai aur aapke parents bhi is rishte ke sweekrit hain toh kya aap ladki ke pariwar se milkar unhe samjha sakte hain? Haan apne desh mein caste ko lekar bade issues ho jate hain, lekin thande dimaag se aap dono, aap aur aapki GF, GF ke gharwalo se miliye, samjhane ki poori koshish kijiye aur zaroort pade to apne parents se bhi phone se baat karwa sakte hain.
Ismein ladki ko pehel leni hogi dost. weh unke parents hain aur unhe hi pehla kadam lena hoga aap unka saath dijiye, hausla dijiye aur jab samay aata hain, jaakar baat karne ka , toh bahut hee aadar purna unse pesh aayiye, bina kisi aalochna se unke saath baat kijiye.
Dekhiye yeh sab kuch karne ke baad bhi weh nahi maane toh aap dono toh baalig hain apne pairo par khade hain to shadi to aap kar hee sakte hain, lekin ghar pariwar ko saath mein lekar shadi karna uchit hoga nahi toh yeh samasya aasani se hul nahi hoti. dost. https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/my-parents-wo...
Is link ko bhi padhiye dost.

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Ladki ko bht dra Diya hai ...or usko bolne nhi Diya jata ....usko jbrdsti us riste m Dal rhe hai or jbrdsti sbne milkr rista krwa Diya wo mna KR rhi hai par uski koi sun nhi RHA ...hme Kya step Lena chaiye ab kse is riste ko mna kre ..kuch smj nhi AA RHA hmari life khrab ho rhi hai please help

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Deep 55aapne oopar jo likha hai padh leeya? Yadi ladki ko pakka nirnay nahin leytee - na aap kuch kar saktey hain na woh. Phir to shaadi ho hee jayegee - yeh unhe tay karna hai
Kya aapne unhe offer dee hai? Shadi ki? Yadi woh maan jaatee hain - himmat kar ke ghar chode ke aa jaati hain - aap shadi kar leynge?
Ya phr, apkee family kya boltee hai - kya veh rishta le jaa saktey hain - aapki gf ke ghar?
Asal mein caste ka maamla bahut hee sakht hota hai - usse tode paana bahut mushkil - LEKIN yeh sab to aap dono ne sochaa hee hoga na - 7 saalon mein? kya tayyari ki hai aapne is din ki? aap dono shuru se hee jaantey they ki aapki family caste ke baare mein kya rai rakhtee hai - to kuch to socha hoga?
Yah aapki stith hai - lekin Ultee.
https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/thinking-about-marriage/my-parents-wo...