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Posted by VikassMore

Mam mai ek 26 yr ka single ladka hoo lekin mera man love marriage ke liye taiyyar hai na ki arrange ke liye,lekin ghar wale arrange ke liye bol rahe hai.Mujhe kya karna chahiye?waise love marriage ke liye maine khoob koshish ki,lekin bahoot ladakiyo ne reject kiya hai.

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moderator love-matters
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VikassMore puttar,
Love Marriage ho ya arrange - Dekho shaadi iss liye matt karo ki tumhare ghar wale tum ko force kar rahe hai. Shaadi isliye karo agar tumko lagta hai ki tum financial taur pe aur mentally bhi iss change ke liye ready ho. Kya tum ek achhi job main ho? Apne aap se khush ho? Itne paise kama lete ho ki kal ko agar tum dono baby plan karte ho - 2-3 saal baad- to usko paal sakoge? Aur kya tumhari job stable hai? Apne parents pe kissi cheez ke liye - specially paise ke liye - dependant to nahi ho - ya woh log tum pe poori tarah dependant to nahi hai? Ki wife ke aane ke baad financial taur pe koi pareshani to nahi aayegi?
Aur haan, arrnage marriage main koi burai nahi hai - agar tumhe mauka mil raha hai - to pehle roka/engagement kar lo - 1 saal tak ladki se baat karo, usko jaano, dekho tum dono ki kitni banti hai - kya tumhe woh achi lagne lagi hai - kya tum dono ki chemistry theek hai? Ek aadh saal tak ladki ko pehchaano - aur usko bhi tumhe jaane ka mauka do - fir jab sab theek lage - tab shaadi karna - nahi to nahi! Yeh padho zara - https://lovematters.in/hi/arranged-marriages-dos-and-donts

Auntyji
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Thank u mam apne bahoot achhi salah di is liye.
Mai abhi poora financial stable nahi hoo,kam se kam or ek do saal lagenge tb tk mai shadi ka plan postponed kar lunga.Or tb tk arrange marriage me agar achha rishta aata hai to uske baare me jaroor sochunga.Again thanks a lot for ur valuable advice ke liye.

moderator love-matters
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all the best beta!

Auntyji