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Posted by VikassMore

Mam Mai ek ladki se pyar karta hoo,usko bola bhi lekin wo bolti hai ki uska already ek breakup ho chuka hai to usme wo interested nahi hai our wo abhi apna pura focus apne career yani ki competitive exam me dena chahati hai.Maine bhi usko bola ki mai tumhe support karunga chahe to tu haa ya naa exam ke baad bata dena,lekin wo bol rahi hai ki filhal friendship hi thik hai.Usko maine bahoot convince karne ki koshish ki lekin wo hui nahi.Maine usko kaha bhi ki mai rukne ke liye tayyar hoo jb tk tum bolo.lekin wo abhi relationship me aana hi nahi chahati.Mam aab me kya kar sakta hoo?

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moderator love-matters
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VikassMore puttar,
Beta agar woh nahi aana chahti to iske do karan ho sakte hain - pehla jo woh keh rahi hai ki woh sirf career pe focus karna chahti hai aur koi bhi distraction nahi chahti. Mano ya na maano - relationship main hone ke baad phone calls, milna, batein karna - bahut kuch karna padta hai - ek doosre ko khush karne ke liye - agar woh mana kar rahi hai - to please tum bhi force mat karo. Uske decision ki respect karo - aur sirf dost bane raho!
2nd reason yeh ho sakta hai ki uska breakup hua hai - woh shayad apne past se abhi ubhri nahi hai - move on nahi ki hai - to please usko force mat karo. Tum nahi jaante ki woh kitna pareshan hui hogi - so dono halaat main force karna theek nahi hai. Respect her decision - jab time sahi hoga - 1-3 saal main - agar woh aana chahe aur tum tab bhi wahi chaho - to tum dono soch sakte ho - abhi ke liye - dont force! Nahi to ek dost bhi kho doge. https://lovematters.in/en/love-and-relationships

Auntyji
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Okk mam mai vaisa hi karunga jb tk wo puri recover nahi hoo jati tb tk friendship me hi rahoonga.uske baad agar kuch ho sakta hai to dekhenge ya fir friendship hi sahi.

Thanks for ur valuable advice mam!