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Suraj singh
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Mam meri age 26 years h ek ladki h mere pados me uski age abi 15 years h. Jab vo 11 ki ti tab usne bola ki vo muje like krti tab se hi ham letter ke thru bate karte. hamne kabi ek dusre ko tuch bi nhi kiya h Vo bolti h ki tum abi kisi aur se sadi mat karo jab mai 18ki ho jaungi tab tum mere se sadi Krna
Kya Krna chahiye muje please suggest

Suraj
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Suraj singh puttar,
Dekho woh tumhe like karti hai - lekin tum? Tumhara kya? Tum usko pasand karte ho ya nahi? Aur kya tumhe apna aur uska age gap theek lagta hai? I mean wo abhi school main hai. 15 saal ki hai. Maan lo tum ne 18 saal ki hone tak uska wait bhi kar liya to kya usko 18 saal ki umar main shaadi kar leni chaiye? Kya tum yeh chahoge ki woh apni padhai likhaye sab khatam kar ke shaadi kar le? Koi career nahi - koi graduation nahi - bas 18 ke hue aur shaadi? Ab to minimum age 21 saal ho gayi hai shaadi ki - ladkiyon ke liye bhi.

Uske baad kya? Kya tumne yeh bhi socha hai ki use ghar wale kaise react karenge? Zara inn sab baton ko gaur se socho aur fir he koi faisla lo. Woh abhi choti hai - maybe usko tumhare pe crush ho - isse zyada kuch seriously mat socho please. Bachon ko kai baar bade logon pe crush hota hai. Yeh normal hai. But please shaadi ek bahut he important aur life changing decision hai. Iske baare main soch samajh ke faisla lo. https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/how-to-have-a-good-wedding

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Mam like to krta hu pr prob vahi sab h age gap and education ka. maine use samjhya bi pr vo manane ke liye ready nhi h. bolti h ki carrier to sadi ke bad bi bana sakti hu pr tum kisi aur se sadi kiye to mai apne aap ko kuch kr lungi. Underage h abi vo kuch hua to sari problems muje hone vali h
Isliye samjh me nhi aa raha h kya kru and
Agr mai uski Bat man bi lu to kya 21tak wait Krna sahi hoga

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Suraj singh puttar,
Tum pehle to use samjhao. Usko apni padhai pe focus karne ko bolo. Agar woh fir tumhe suicide ki dhamki deti hai to please apne ghar walon ko iss problem ke baare main batao. Yeh serious samasya hai. Agar uss ladki ne kuch ulta seedha kadam. uthaya to tum POCSO act ke andar seedha jail ja sakte ho. Meri salah to yahi rahegi ki jitni jaldi ho sake apne parents se baat karo iss problem ke baare main aur fir uske parents se baat kar sakte ho. Parents ko involve karna zaroori hai. Nahi to samasya aage chal ke bahut badi ho sakti hai. 18 saal ki kam umar ki ladki ke saath agar maano tumne kuch bhi nahi kia hai - lekin woh bol de ki tumne uske saath kuch kiya hai ( maan lo jhuth he bol de) to beta kanoon ki nazar mai tum bahut bade doshi hoge - woh ladki nahi. Tum fasoge - woh ladki nahi. WOh to choti hai - 15 saal ki - lekin beta tum to samajhdaar ho - haina? Tum jaan bhoojh ki koi bhi musibat mol mat lo - ho sake to parents/police sab ko involve karo aur khud clear raho - apne aap ko bacha ke rakho please. yeh article padho - isme detail main POSCO act ke baare main likha hai - Agar tumne usko koi ashleel jokes wagera bhi bhejein hain ya koi messages - to bhi tumko saza ho sakti hai - yahan padho. to jaza - https://lovematters.in/hi/he-she-is-17-can-we-have-sex-if-we-both-agree

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Mam 4saal ho gaye letter ke thru bat krte huye maine sefty ke liye uske sare letter sambhal ke rakhe h
Mam hamare parents old khayal ke h unhe batane ki himmat nhi ho rahi h. Vo is bat ko bahut bada issue bana denge
Mam mai jo disigan lene ki soch raha hu vo mai aapko batata hu aap batao ki kya mera disigan sahi h ya galat
Mam philhal mere upar sadi ke liye Ghar valo ka pressure h pr mai unhe manage kar sakta hu
Maine socha h ki jo bi jaisa bi chal raha h chlane do mai use motivat krta hu padhai aur carrier pr dhyan dene ke liye. aur wait krta hu jab vo adult ho jayegi aur uska graduation complete ho jayega usme samjh AA jaygi phir dekhte h uska kya disigan h.
pr dar yahi h ki kahi uske bad usne apna disigan change kr diya to meri life ke kai saal kharab ho jaayenge

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Suraj singh puttar,
Tumhare irade to theek hai, par shayad life main woh sab hota nahi hai jaise ki hum chahte hain. jab tak woh 21 saal ki hogi - usmein 6 saal baaki hai. Kya tum itna wait karne ke liye ready ho? Aur tumhare parents, jo abhi nahi maan rahe ya jinse tumhe abhi he baat karne mein tension ho rahi hai - kya tab maan jayenge? Soch lo. Aur age gap to rahe ga he hamesha. Ho sakta hai bade hone par usko apni khud ki yeh harkat bahut he bachkana lage? Woh bahar niklegi aur uska bhi aur ladkon se milna julna hoga - dosti hogo - 6 saal bahut lamba arsa hota hai - uska kya? Abhi. to woh yeh bolegi ki woh kissi aur ko nahi chahegi - siva tumhare. Lekin baad ka kya? Ho sakta hai ki uski life main koi na aaye - aur ho sakta hai aa bhi jaaye - yeh to samay he bata sakta hai - Risk to hai bahut bada. Agar koi aa jayega to kya tum uski khushi ki khatir apne aap ko sacrifice karne ko tayyar ho? Ya fir un ladkon ki tarah karoge jo kahoge ki nahi ab to tumhe mujh se he shaadi karni padegi. Yeh sab baton ko gaur se socho - har chez ke parinaam aur dushparinam socho - fir he koi decision lo. Main samajh sakti hun tum bahut tension main hoge - so araam se, stress fir hoke, khule dimaag se uss ladki se bhi sab baat karo - aur usko bhi apni problem batao - aur fir koi faisla lo.

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Thanks for suggestion Mam

Suraj