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Posted by saurya

mam meri ek dost bo or hum sath ,me rahte h unki mom ne hi usko mere sath bhjeja h kio ki meri faninencial condition sahinahi h bahi hum ko pada rahi h to meri dost mere sath rahne lgi uska ek bf h jisse bo sadi krna chate h uskoye baat pasand nahi h ki meri dost mere sath rah rahi h meri dost uske sath 4 year rahi to usko koi dout nahi tha ab usko dout h bolta h ki mujhe reasion bataoo sath rhane ka tum akele bhi padai kr sakte ho uski help kr sakte ho . meri dost ne usko sath nahi rakha abhi to bo uski baaat nahi sun raha h usse kahta h ki ghar raho ya mere sath raho or kisi ke sath nahi raho gi maine bhi usse baat ki usko samjhaya bola ki aaisi koi baat nahi h lekin bo ek baat sunne ko tayar nahi h bo dono relation me bhi rahe h or ab bo ek baat nahi sunta kuch kh bhi de agar to khta h ki mai tu tadke anhi sun pao ga bo bhut presan h uski ek baat nahi sun raha jayada kuch kahao to no. bnd nahi krta h or na phone uthata h kuch kahao to khta h reason batao tum logo ke sath rahne ka maine usko bhut samjhaye lekin bo ek manne ko tayar nahi h meri dost bhut presan h kahi apne ko kati h kahi kuch krne lgti usko samjhao bo bhi nahi samjhti h bo khti h ki usse baat kro usko samjhao maine baat ki leki bo nahi smajh raha h kuch bhi bo khne lga mujh se ki mai bhi kisi ke sath raho ga ab jaisa bo kr rahi h baisa mai bhi kro ga usko kaise samjhao kuch samjh nahi aa rha h bo itni presan h uske sath kisi ne achcha nahi kiya maine bhut samjahya mai uske bare me kabhi galt nahi sochta ha bo presan hoti h to mujhse dekha nahi jata h usko lgta h mai bhi sabki trha hi hu mai bhut ghut ghut ke presan hu ek trf meri dost presan h or dusri trf mai or usko lgta h ki hum log bhut khus h hum ne usse kahaki yaha ajao or dekh lo ki hum presan h ya khus h to bo kuch nahi bola ye uske sath rahti thi tb tk bo inki sb sun leta tha or one year se jb se uske sath nahi rahti tb se bo dout krta h khta h bo apne mn ka krti h bo thodi jiddi h unko gussa aa jata his liye ghar unse koi kuch nahi khta h jb tk bo uski hr baat mnti h bo jokhe krti tb tk koi ladai jhgda nahi or uski mn ka nahi kiya tbhi se ye sb jhgda suru dono logo ko face ton face baat bhi klrbai lekin koi solution nahi nikla bo inki ek baaat nahi lgne deta h pata nahi kaise samjhao mai dono logo ko kuch samjh me nahi aa rha h

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Hello saurya,

Affoss dost lekin aisa lag raha hai ki aap GF and GF ke aapsi matbhed mein fass gaye hain. Woh dono kitna pareshan hai ya unki samsya kaise suljahi jaye se jyada ab baat yeh bhi lag rahi hai ki aap bahut jyada pareshan hain aur ab aapki samsya bhi sulajhni zaruri hai.

Toh kuch batein, Pehli yeh ki apne partner par gussa karna, unki naa sunna, unhe adesh dena, adesh na manne par baat band kar dena, shak karna ek barabri ke rishte ya keh lijiye ek swasth rishe ke lakshan nahi hai. Aur yeh baat aapki dost ko samjhni hai aur ek aur baar vichaar karna hai ki kya woh aise insan ke saath apna bhavishya dekhti hain!

Ab aapki baat, aap unhe apne paas rakh kar unhe padhai mein support kar rahe hain, aapko koi pareshani nahi hai, dost ke ghar walon ko koi pareshani nahi hai lekin dost ke BF ko pareshani hai-Toh aap apni taraf se kaafi kar chuke aur keh chuke. Ab ek step peeche lijiye. Apni dost ko apne liye acha-bura sochte hauye ek sahi nirya lene ke liye kahiye. Aur aapse jyada ab karne ki baar unki hai kyunki yeh asal mein unka mudda jyada hai aapka kum hai.

Umeed hai yeh points aapko aatmnirikshan karne aur atmchintan karne mein madd karenge. Philhaal bus itna hee, yeh bhi padh sakte hain:
https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/friend-vs-boyfriend-how...

All the best!

Kiran Ki Rai.