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Posted by saxena18

Mam, meri ek gf hai , jab bhi usey sex ki baat kro toh vo kehti hai shaadi ke baad halaki hum pichle 4 saalo se saath hai aur hum ek dusre se pyaar bhi krte hai lekin jab usey sex ki baat kro yhi kehti hai ki shaadi ke baad, maine kha maan lo humari shaadi nhi hui toh kha nhi jo bhi krungi sirf pati ke saath he krungi, ab esa sunke pta nhi acha nhi lgta aap he btaoo esa kaisa lagega sunke ki vo kehti jo bhi krungi shaadi ke baad apne pati ke saath usey pehle nhi kr skti. Mai tumse sex ki baatein kr leti hu lekin esa sch mai nhi kr paungi ..Aur aap jaanti he hai icha sabke andar hoti hai apne partner ke saath krne ka. Toh isme mai kya karu? Isi tarh rha mujhe yeh soch kr bahut dukh aur bura lgta hai ki yeh kisi din mere siva kisi aur se yeh kregi ..

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moderator love-matters
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saxena18 puttar,
Maana 4 saal lamba samay hai par beta hum kissi ko force nahi kar sakte. kisi bhi sexual activity, chaho woh sex ki baatein he na ho, usko karne ke liye ek cheez bohot hi important hai woh hai dono logo ki sehmati. Yadi woh abhi is baat ke liye sehmat nahi hain toh aap bhi force mat kijiye. Yeh Jaaiz demand nahin.
https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/consent-all-about-being...

Auntyji
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Everything is not about sex uska concern matter krta hai if she doesn't want to do it that's totally fine. Apko even support krna chahiye aise decision mein. Agar usko shaadi ke baad karna hai toh yeh uski choice hoti hai. Aur agar aap usse pyaar krte ho toh apko toh tension leni hi nahi chahie qki fir shaadi bhi aap hi se hogi uski toh mtlb uss hisab se pati bhi aap hi hoge. You should support her in this decision. Iccha sabki hoti hai lekin dono side se agar nahi ho toh zabaradasti karna ya baar baar bolna sahi nahi hai. Aur sahi baat hai agr shaadi nahi hui tumhari toh fir?? Physical bhi ho gye and alag bhi ho gye baad toh uski baat bilkul sahi hai.