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Posted by Papuni555

Mera ek friend , Aditi , uski bf hai , aur 6 saalo ka luv hai. Uski bf ek private schol tcher hai , aur wo school aditiki ke ghar se 4 km duri pe hai, jab bhi free milta hai..dono baat karne ke liye miltein hai.aur aditi ghar pe techar job ke liye padhai kar rahi hai.

Aditi ke clg ke ek sir hai, joki aditi ke contact main hai..achhi dost ki tarah. Aditi ko ache tips detin hain auur aditi ko unke tips achhe lagti hai, motivate feel karti hai. Problem yeh hai ki aditi ki bf ne aditi ki call list check karta hai hardin online se.. iss bajah se aditi paresan hai.. aur uski bf se isiii baat ko lekar jhagda ho rahi hai baar baar. Uski bf call list check karke bolta hai ki , yeh kiska number hai, usse kyun bbaat ki..aur gali bhi deta hai...ye sab aditi ko acchi nahi lagti hai.

Wese bhi.. uski bf ki ghar log jante hain ki unke beta aditi se luv karta hai..aur ssadi karne ko bolta hai.. lekin aditi ke ghar log reaji nahi hai..caste problem ke bajah se.. ishh liye aditi. Ko bahar job coaching karne ke liye nahi chhodte hai aditiko..kahin aur kuch na kar base.. iss liye aditi ghar pe padhai kRti hai..aur 2 saal tak job nahi lagi hai... Iss saal wo kaise bhi padhai karke job karni hai usko... Toh usee bf ka bbaat ko lekar tension hai..wo aub khud ko kaise strong kareinn... Job ke liye???? Please help mam...

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Papuni555 beta,
Aditi ko bolo ke uska bf theek nahi hai - pls jisko wo pyar soch rahi hai - wo control hai. Abhi to shaadi nahi hui hai to itna sara problem hai shakk karta hai, call list ccheck karta hai - yeh pyar NAHI hai. yeh violence hai. Hinsa ka ek roop hai. Aditi ki marzi woh jisse marzi baat kare, jisse marzi hone kare. yeh uski apni life hai. Agar uske bf ko uspe trust nahi hai - to aditi ko apne bf ko chodh dena chahiye. Pehle baat kare usse. Samjhaye ki yeh theek nnahi hai - agar woh aisa karega aage se to wo hamesha ke liye break up kar legi. Agar woh fir bhi aisa karta hai - to aditio ko apne career pe aur studies pe focus karna chahiye - uss ladke pe nahi. Usko bahana maar de ki uske parents ko pata chal gaya hai aur ab woh usse kabhi baat nahi kar sakti. Jitni jaldi ho sake aise shakki aadmi ko apni life se nikal de. Log pyar khush rehne ke liye karte hai, ek doosre ko support karne ke liye karte hai, ek doosre pe trust karne ke liye - ek doosre ki himmat banne ke liye karte hain. Agar trust he nahi hai to kaisa pyar - yeh sab dikhawa hai - dukh deta hai. Aditi beta - pleasse iss jaal se bahar nikal. Life bahut achi hai - galat aadmi ke peeche lag kar isko kharab mat kar. Yeh pyar nahi hinsa hai - intimate partner violence. Yahan padho - https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/relationship-problems/m... aur yeh bhi https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/relationship-problems/i... Hope aditi ko jaldi samajh aaye! yeh links zaroor padna beta!

Auntyji
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Mam , aditi ke ghar walo ne uski bf ko jante hain , aur bf ki ghar walon bhi aditi ko jantein hain. 6 saal pehle jab pyar suru hui thi..tab dono ki ghara walon ne jaan gaye the. Uski bf bhi ghar pe keh chuka hai ki wo aditi se hi saadi karegi. Lekin unke ghar log sayad raji nehi hai caste problem ke bajah se. Isliye uski bf kehta hai aditi se ki chura ke lekar saadi karlegi.par aditi ko aisa pasand nahi hai. Wo apni maa baap ka nam badnam nehi kar sakti. Aditi ke ghar log jantein hein aditi aur uski bf main aur kuchh nahi chal rahi hai . Lekin uski bf ke ghar wale jantein hain ki aub bhi chal raha hai aur uske ghar wale yeeh sandeh kartain hai ki paise sab uss ladki ke upar kharch kar leta hai, ghar nehi vejta hai. Par aditi uske bf se 1 bhi paisa nahi liya hai. Yeh sab aditi ko dukhi karti hai. Lekin uski bf aditi ko financial support ki hai aur study main help bhi ki hai. Lekin aaj kal jyada ghhusa ho jata hai aur baat baat par block kar deta hai WhatsApp par. Kya karein aditi aub ????

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Beta,
Financial support ki hai to wapis jar de. 6 saal to theek hain lekin poori zindagi ek aise insaan ke saath kyu bitani usko jo ki uske call records check karta hai? Shaadi ke baad to aur bhi shakk karega woh. Adidti ko bolo ki woh thande dimag se soche - jo ho gaya ho gaya - bahut se log pyar karte hain fir break-up bhi hota hai. Abhi se uss ladke ke ghar wale aditi pe shakk karte hain to shaadi ke baad to uska jeena dushwar kar denge ki sab paise uda diye. Aditi ko usko ultimatum dena hoga - ya to woh uske call records check karna band kare aur uski life me interfere karna band kare - ya for usko hamesha ke liye kho de! Study main help kitnni ki hogi - 10 - 20 hazar ya 1 lakh maan lo - woh to aditi job karne ke baad khud se wapis kar degi future main. Iss wajah se woh uske ehsaan tale kyu dabe aur sirf issi wajah se woh uska gussa kyu sahe? abhi aditi ko lag raha hoga ki arre wah woh mere se pyar karta hai issliye koi baat nahi - gussa bhi kar le - calls issliye check karta hai kyunki woh possesive hai etc - par yeh BAHUT he bada negative point ya red flag hai rishte main. Meri baat aaj nahi to kal zaroor samjhegi woh! Lekin bas tab tak der na ho jaye aur kuch galat na ho jaye uske saath ki woh wapis he na aa sake! So please abhi bhi shaadi nahi hui hai - sab kuch theek ho skata hai. Ya to aditi ko himmat dikhani hogi apni self respect wapis lene ki ya fir usko chodh de - aage uski marzi! Lekin apni respect karna seekho aditi - kisi ko hak nahi banta tumko iss tarah treat karne ka. Tum khud ki respect nahi karogi to koi tumhari kyu karega! Aditi ko yeh message zaroor dena!

Auntyji
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Thik hai... Thank you mam