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Mera relationship total 9 mahine chla jisme 5 mahina lga tar baat hui h phr 2 baar mulakat hui long distance relationship tha aur meri rishtedaar mei bhi ati h phr achanak ek din uske chachre bhaiya k call aya wo bf bnke baat kiye phr meri gf k barein ulta sidha bole phr saam ko btye ki mein uska bhai hu mein confuse tha aur mein emotional bht hu th mei bimaar hogya ki ab kya hoga phr chuppe chuppe baat hoti thi 10 din mein 1 hafte wo bhi jb mein milata phr dekha 5 mahine k baad ki baat h 4 mahina mein bht ladai hui h srf isiliye ki mein khta tha ki tum mujhse 2 min hi sahi baat kr liya kro agr mei 1 se 2 dusri baar phn mila deta th chillane lgti ki tum bht phn kr rhe ho mein bimar tha dimagi tor pr ki khi wo mujse door na ho jye th mein khta ki bs kuch der baat kr liya kro mujhe bht tension hoti h tunhari th khti h mein apna tension dekhu ya dusre phr ek din mood bna liya mei aur jis no. Se bhaiya ko phn aya tha usko save kr k block kr rkha h phr dekha us pr kbhi dp nhi lgi lkn us din dikha th mere hi age ldke ki photo lgi thi th mein pucha ki bhai dp accchi th wo trnt dp hta diya phn switch off iske 2 ghnete baad meri gf ka call aya phr wo chillane lgi ki bhaiya gussa rhe the kyu aise likhe ho kya chahte ho aur ek baat mein aksr usko gaki se baat krta tha wo yhi khti thi ki ap gali de skte hm nhi lkn mein khta tha ki gali do th wo deti phr achanak us din wo bht gandi gandi gali suru kr di mein usko srf sali bola wo meri mummy ko hi gali dedi phr ladai hui phr sb khtm lkn kuch der baad wo mere bhai ko phone kr k kh rhi h ki wo mujhe gali diye mein bhi unke barein mein bht kych janti hu th bhaiya hmre gussai phr hm khe kh dena ki kbhi call nhi jyega phr uske 10 din baad uska birthday tha mein usko msg kiya aur smhhya raat ko 12 bje msg kr k lkn no repli phr aaj 21 din ho gye mujge uski bht yaad aarhi h aur din raat uska khyal chl rha tha uski baatein yadein phr mein msg kiya ki ek baar baat kr lo kyunki ego nhi lara tha kyunki mein true love krta hu phr uske pass msg received mujhe dikha phr try kiya th ohn off aur phr agla msg not send h ab kya kru aur usne muje shirt di thi aur jeans jeans th phek diya mein lkn 1000 cash aur shirt mujhe di bina mange mei apna rumal usey yaad k taur pr diya aur mein diary mei sb date likha tha jo mein 3 din phle jla diya diary lkn mein shirt k bdle aur 1000rs ko kull 3000 rupee dena chahta hu usi ka msg kr rha received nhi hua th aap btyi kya krun kyunki muhe ehsan lg rha h wo kpda aur rupee soch k rona aarha h plz help me.

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Mr.Mathur puttar,
Tumhe bahut bura lag raha hoga. Main samj sakti hun. Uski bahut yaad bhi aa rahi hogi aur bhoolna mushkil lag raha hoga. main janti hun ki breakup se ubharna mushkil hota hai, khaskar tab jab rishta lambe samay ke baad tootta hai aur aapne is saath ke bahut sare sapne dekhe hote hai. Isse ubharane ke liye sabse zaruri hai - apne apko samay dijiye. Kisi bhi neeji rishtey ke tootne par jo takleef hoti hai wo asahaniye hoti hai aur ham kamzoor mehsus karte hai.

Aur rishta khatam hone ki takleef shayad tujhko ye bhi mehsus kara rahi ho ki tujh mein hi koi kami hai. Ye sarey sawal tere mann mein aayenge aur tujhe in sab cheezon ka mukabla karna padega. Samay aur sahansheelta hi tujhe is dard se ubharegi. Tu nayi shuruwat tab tak nahi kar payenge jab tak aap apne aap ko ye nahi samjha payenge ki ye rishta bas yahi tak ka thaa. Jeevan iske aagey bhi hai - tujhe apne app ko ek nayi shuruwaat ke liye taiyar karna padega aur isme samay lagega. Koi jald baazi mat karna aur apne emotions ko settle hone ka samay dena. Tu apne aap ko ye samjhane ki koshish kar ki tu atmavishwas ke saath ek naye sire se ek naye rishtey ki shuruwat kar sakta hai. Aage ka rastaa tujhe apne aap dikhne lagega.

Aur haan, breakup ka dard tab aur mehsus hota hai jab hum pori tarah apne apko purani yaadon mein duba kar rakhtey hai. Ek nayi shuruwat ke liye ye zaruri hai ki tu wo sab kuch karein jo apko acha lagta hai. Doston se milna, sports khelna, apni pasand ke gaane sunana, movies dekhna ya phir kuch naya seekhna. Apne aap se poochiye ki kya cheezein karne se apka dhyan kahi aur batega. Agar neeji dost hai tere to usne apni mann ki baat share kar.

Beta rishtey to hote hi hai paichida lekin is daur se ubharne ke baad tum samajh paoge ki rishtey aur breakups bhi humein bahut kuch sikha kar jaate hain, kai baar bahut acchi cheezein bhi. Aur rishta to wahi acha hota hai naa jisme dono ki sehmati ho aur jo dono chahe. Agar pyaar sirf ek tarfa reh jaye to Babu moshai - us rishtey ko karo bye bye aur badh jao aagey.
Kuch dukh hoga, kuch aason honge, shayad tu kuch sad songs bhi sune, lekin aage shayad ek naya pyaar bhara rishta bhi hoga jiske barey mein tum abhi soch bhi nahi paa rahe ho. Duniya bahut rangeen hai aur kya pata tum aagey aur kitne romanchak logon se milo. Beta ji, mukka do apne aap ko aur aagey badho. Aur haan breakup to ek bada mudda hai aur aise kitne diljale hain jinhone nujhse ye sawal baar baar poocha hai,. Tu akela nahi hai beta. Padh yahan - jo tujhe bata rahi ho wo maine kitne aur logon ko bataya hai: https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/getting-ove...
Aur haan, uslo kuch bhi wapis karne ki zaroorat nahi hai. Agar jeans/shirt dekhne se uski yaad aati hai to usko hata de. Lekin ab peeche mud ke mat dekh. Aage badh beta. Usko bhula de. Teri Aunty hai yahan tera dukh baatne ke liye aur main chahti hun ki tu aagey badhe aur apne app ko pyaar ke is khel mein aur mauka de. Chal muskura de abhi.

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Thank you aunty mein aap pr hi bharosa krta hu bht phle issey phle meri ek id thi lkn wo mail block hone k wjh se nya bnya hu ab kuch accha mehsoos ho rha aap ko bta k bht relax ho gya kyunki 2 dost ko btaya th ek th smjhya lkn dusra mja lene lga phr aap yaad ayi mein site dunda phr ye btya aapko thank you aunty jii love you meri pyaari aunty jii.
Aur aunty ek cheej bta digiye ki ye sb baat ex gf ki baatein mein future mein apni wife ko bta skta hu. Mein smoke bhii krta hu srf smoke only.mujhe overthinking ki bimari si ho gyi h bht sochta hu bht question mn mein chlte h mere.

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Thank you aunty mein aap pr hi bharosa krta hu bht phle issey phle meri ek id thi lkn wo mail block hone k wjh se nya bnya hu ab kuch accha mehsoos ho rha aap ko bta k bht relax ho gya kyunki 2 dost ko btaya th ek th smjhya lkn dusra mja lene lga phr aap yaad ayi mein site dunda phr ye btya aapko thank you aunty jii love you meri pyaari aunty jii.
Aur aunty ek cheej bta digiye ki ye sb baat ex gf ki baatein mein future mein apni wife ko bta skta hu. Mein smoke bhii krta hu srf smoke only.mujhe overthinking ki bimari si ho gyi h bht sochta hu bht question mn mein chlte h mere.