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Posted by mpanditg

Meri ek gf hai jisase mai bhut pyar krta hu. Shadi ki baat bhi hui ghar walo se lkin mere ghar wale taiyar nhi hue samaj ki wajah se. Ladki k ghar wale taiyar the. Fir maine usase shadi nhi ki apne parivar ki wajah se. Kal us ladki ki shadi ho gyi dusre ladke se. Lkin mai us ladki se chori se sindur aur mangalsutra pahna chuka hu kyuki mai use apni bibi hi manta hu apne nagar me. Kripya mujhe bataye ki ye rista sahi h na jo hum logo k bich me chal rha hai aur aage bataye ki kya karna chahiye

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mpanditg puttar,
Dekho mangalsutra aur sindoor pehnane se kuch nahi hota. Yeh sab filmon main he sach hota hai - real life main nahi. Real life main shaadi ko maanyata dene ke liye yeh bahut zaroori hai ki shaadi court mein registered ho aur riti riwaz se bhi ki gayi ho. Aur haan - jab uss ladki ki shaadi ho he gayi hai - aapne nahi ki - to ab inn sab baton ka kya fayda? Aage badiye. Uss ladki to apne naye jeewan ki shuruwaat karne ke liye help kijiye - usse cut off ho ke. Na ki in sab faltu baton main padh ke! Kissi ko mann se biwi maane se kuch nahi hota - jab aapke paas mauka tha - tab aapne ussko chod diya pariwaar ke liye - to ussi faisle pe tike rahiye. Ab yeh mangalsutra aur sindoor jaisi baton ka kya fayda? Zindagi main aage badiye. Apni life pe focus kijiye - apne job pe - apne pariwaar pe! Uss ladki ko khush dekhe dijiye apne haal pe! https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/breaking-up/getting-ove...

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Thanks Auntyji,

Zindagi ek aise mod pe aa k khadi h ki kuch bhi samajh me nahi aa r h ...aaj tak mai ye nhi samajh paya ki maine sahi kiya ya galat. Ek ladki jo sabkuch mere liye chodne ko taiyar thi maine hi use chod diya. Bhut guilt feel ho rha hai. Wo ladki bhi mere se ye relationship aise hi banaye rakhna chahti h kyuki wo bhi ye janti hai ki mai kitna majboor tha. Mai bas ye chahta hu ki uski is new zindagi me mere wajah se koi problem na aaye but ha hum dono ne ye touch me rahne ka aur mauka milne per ek sath samay bitane ka faisla kiya hai. Kuch bhi samajh me nahi aa rha hai ki age ki zindagi kaise bitayi jaye.pls suggest further

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mpanditg puttar,
main samaj sakti hun ki yeh mushkil hai ki tum usse break up kar lo - lekin agar tum dono touch main rahoge - kissi bhi tarah - to na to tum apni life main aage badh sakoge - na woh. Woh apni new life main adjust he nahi ho payegi - apne pati ke saath woh relationship he nahi rakh payegi agar woh tumhare saath woh relation rakhegi - aur aaj nahi to kal - uske pati ko ya tumhare ghar walon ko agar pata chal gaya - to bahut badi musibat main fass jaoge tum dono! Uski life barbad hogi woh alag. Issliye main to yahi salah dungi ki usko bhi samjhao ki tum dono ka saath bas yahin tak tha...woh rishta jise naam dena na ho mumkin, usse ek khoobsurat mod pe la ke khatam karna he achha hai. Taaki tum dono ke mann mein ek doosre ki achi yadein ho - koi tension na ho - koi guilt na ho - koi darr na ho kissi se padke jaane ka. Tumhe abhi yeh sab karne ka mann nahi karega - kyunki tumhara zakhm abhi tazza hai - lekin 6-7 mahine beet jaane do - samay bahut kuch theek kar deta hai - tum bhi to life main aage badna chahoge beta - apni life banana chahoge - kya tumhar future partner yeh pasand karegi ki tumne shaadi to usse ki lekin sochte kissi aur ke baare main ho! So beta , meri baton ko thoda gaur se socho - apne mann ko pakka banao - aur apne aap ko uske bina jeene ke liye tayyar karo - yeh mushkil hai - lekin naamumkin nahi - so please meri salah ke bare mein zaroor sochna beta - baaki tum khud samajhdaar ho - apna faisla lene ke liye - aal the best!

Auntyji
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Thanks Aunty ji ,
This advice is helpful, mai bhi yhi soch r tha . But mai abhi to use nhi chod sakta ekdum se hi kyuki na wo rahegi aur na hi mai. This will take time, rest i dont know about my future. Maine bhi abhi shadi nhi ki hai aur na hi soch rha hu shadi k baare me. lets see what is in my fate.
Thanks for your love and this precious support.

Ye sab bate kisi aur se share bhi to nhi ki ja sakti ..so this platform is really good

Pranam

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mpanditg puttar,
Itne ache shabd hamare platform ke baare main kehne ke liye dhanyawaad. Haan tum sahi keh rahe ho, ismein time lagega - usko bhulane main. Main aasha karti hun ki tumhari life jaldi fir se khushiyon se bhar jaye. All the best!

Auntyji