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Posted by ram214

Namaste Auntyji, Please meri help kijiye mai decision nahi le pa raha hoo, Meri engagement march month me hogayi, engagement ke baad maine ladki ke sath bat karni start ki, pehle hum idhar udhar ki baate karte, phir ek din maine us se aise hi uss se sex ke bare me baat ki to usne thik se baat nahi ki, phir maine usse pucha tumne blue file dekhi hai kya , tumhe wo dekhke ulti (Vomiting) jaisa to nahi hota, kya tumhe sex se kuch pareshani hai, ***************************************************************************************************************************************************************************** Please merei help karo muze wo ladki se shadi karni chahiye ya nahi karne chahiye, aur karni chahiye to kya uss ladke se pehle baat karni chahiye.

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Sorry puttar, apna sawal sankshipt main poocho - 2-3 lines main - hum log tabhi answer kar payenge. Main isko delete kar rahi hun - Dhanyawaad.

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sorry Auntyji, meri ek ladki se engagement ho chuki hai, uska pehle ek boyfriend hai, wo abhi bhi dono ek dusre se pyar karte hai, ladki ke ghar wale muzse ladki ki shadi uske marji ke khilap kar rahe hai, wo dono ek dusre se pyar karte hai, magar ghar wale shadi ke khilap hai, wo ladki se maine kaha ki aap dono bhag ke shadi kar lo mai help kar ta hoo, par wo ladki kehti hai , uske papa ladke ko chodenge nahi, aur wo ladki keh rahi hai ki usne try kia mujhse pyar karne ka par uss se ho nahi raha hai, ladki se maine pucha agar tum mujhse shadi kar lo aur future me hamara nahi jama to tum kya uss ladke ke pass gayi to wo tumhe apna payega to wo kehti hai ha. To fir mera future to khatre me hai na, abhi ladki keh rahi hai maine sab bhagwan pe chod diya hai, jo hoga dekha jayega. Kya wo ladki use bhula payegi , ya dono shadi ke baad bhi ek dusre se connect rahege. agar mujhe uss ladki se shadi karni ho to kya muze uske boyfriend se pehle baat karni chahiye. Ya fir mai shadi ke liye shida na kar du.

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ram214 puttar,
yeh to bada mushkil maamla hai beta. Dekho woh ladki kissi aur se pyar karti hai ya karti thi - kya woh abhi bhi usse pyar karti hai? Ya usse break-up kar chuki hai? Agar to woh move on karna chahti hai beta - to yeh uska faisla hai. Tum uska saathd e sakte ho - iss promise pe ki woh tumhare saath aage chal ke sachhi rahe aur peeche mud ke na dekhe. Lekin kya tum bhi aisa chahte ho? Kya tum usko uske past ke saath apna paoge? To iss baare main zara soch lo. Kahin aisa na ho ki abhi tum usko apna lo emotional ho ke - lekin baad main, kuch saal bad, jab bhi koi ladai jagdha ho - anban ho - yum usko uske past ke baare main yaad dila kar taane maaro. Yeh bahut galat hoga tab. So beta abhi soch lo! Life bahut lambi hai aur shaadi bahut important decision hai, so soch samajh ke lena.
Rahi baat ki kya woh ladki use bhula payegi? Beta yeh to wahi bata sakti hai - dekho agar woh usse break-up kar ke aage badhna chahe - to haan - thoda mushkil hai - lekin na-mumkin nahi. Lekin iss baare main tum usse baat karo - ki kya woh tumko aashwasan de payegi?
Uss ladki ke bf se baat karne ka mujhe to koi fayda nahi lagta. Waise bhi woh dono agar balig hain - 18 se upar - aur uska bf kamata hai/job wala hai - to woh dono shaadi karne ka faisla rakh sakte hain - kanooni taur pe. Haan parents ki wajah se tough hai - lekin unko legally koi nahi rok sakta beta.
Aur tum agar usse shaadi nahi karna chahte - to tum apne parents ko bata sakte ho ki kya baat hai - kya wajah hai - unko apne confidence main lo - aur sab sach bata do. Lekin unse yeh request bhi karo ki woh ladki ke parents ko ho sake to sach baat mat bateyein. Isse ladki ke liye bhi yeh shaadi tal jayegi abhi ke liye aur woh apni life main aage kya karna hai - yeh faisla le sakti hai.
So sab kuch soch lo - uss ladki se anpe mann ke fears share karo - ki tumhare mann main kya chal raha hai - kya darr hain tumhare aur koi bhi faisla future ke baare main soch ke lena. abhi emotional ho ke mat lena! All the best beta - https://lovematters.in/hi

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