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Posted by Pranav

Namaste maam, Maam actually my question contains so many categories like relationship, sex, pregnant, and many more so i choosed pregnancy from that. Maam actually i want to tell you everything that might go big because if i tell in few words you might go to think me a man who did wrong. *******So maam as i know that the delivery takes 9 months of pregnancy so i have a thought of that i want to give her a baby as a symbol of our love on our 1 st aniversary on 15 march 2022 so maam i thought of that can i started doing sex with her after few days as of she will look nine month or with a baby in hand on 15 march 2022. What are the things i should keep in mind during sex as she had done sex with her ex husband will our baby born with mixed genes of me, neetu and her ex husband. Please let me know.

Pranav
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Pranav puttar,
Aap dono kya bachhe ke liye ready ho? Financially? Jaise ki aapne bataya ki Neetu ki already ek beti hai Sita - Ab uski zimmedari bhi aap par he hai na? Usko padhane ki, uski parwarish ki, right? To kya aap yeh comfortably kar sakte ho?
Abhi abhi aapi shaadi hui hai March main. Aap dono ne ek saath time bhi spend nahi kia - ek doosre ko jaana bhi nahi - right? I would say - Kam se kam 1-2 saal aap ek doosre ke saath time spend karo, ek doosre ko jaano aur apni life ko enjoy karo. Abhi aap dono young ho, bachha baad main paida kar lena. Aapki wife ke paas already ek bachhe ki zimmedaari hai - agar doosra bachha ho jayega abhi se to woh bahut stressed out ho jayegi - aapke saath t o enjoy he nahi kar payegi abhi se? Kya aap yeh chahte hain abhi se?
To meri salah to yeh hai ki apni wife to anniversary pe koi badiya sa gift do - sab theek thaak raha to kahin honeymoon ke liye tum dono akele jaane ka plan karo - Goa, Shimla, kahin bhi!
Bacche ke baare main abhi ruk jao. Abhi 1-2 mahine hue hain tumhari shaadi ko - itni jaldi mat karo pls - ek doosre ko jaano. Condom use karo aur enjoy karo.
Aur iske baad apni wife ko bolo ki woh bhi koi job kare - isse usko achha lagega aur woh financially bhi independent to feel karegi hee saath main tum log uski salary ko save karke kuch saal baad doosre bachhe ki planning kar sakte ho. Dekho 2 bachon main bahut paisa lagta hai paalne main. Asaan nahi hai. Apni wife ko agar job kara ke independent bana sakte ho to better hoga - isse ghar main paise bhi aayenge aur woh khush bhi rahegi. Aur bhagwan na kare agar kal ko fir se uski life main kuch bura hota hai to kam se kam woh apne aap ko job se support to kar payegi? Apni bachhi to achi life to de payegi? Abhi to woh sirf 28 ki hai. Bachhe ke liye 35 years tak koi issue nahi aata generally!
So pehle apni life set karo, uski life set karo - fir bacche ke baare main socho. Abhi to sirf life ko enjoy karo! ek doosre ko jaano, ghoomo, baahr jao… maza karo, kaam ya job mein focus karo aur phir bachche ke socho- jab aap har tareh se tayyar ho, khaas kar ke hone waali maa. Yaad rahe beta, , ki baby Ke aatey hee yeh sab change ho jaata hai- dono partners ke Ke beech mein bhi bahut kuch badal jaata hai, hain na… so jab tak fully ready na ho, thoda time do.
Theek hai?
https://lovematters.in/hi/pregnancy/unsure-about-being-pregnant/what-is-...
Aur haan jab bhi future main aap bachha paida karne ke baare main socoho to yeh article padh lena - https://lovematters.in/hi/trying-to-conceive-best-time-to-have-sex-ferti...
Aur bachhe main sirf tumhare aur tumhari wife ke genes honge - uske ex-husband ka koi gene nahi hoga. Woh bacha tum dono ka hoga kewal. All the best beta!

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Maam firstly i am very thankful to you that you read my question fully and get to know about me.
Now maam i am going to answer some of the questions that you asked about finance and all
Maam jaisa ki aapne pucha ki mai financially bachche ke liye ready hu aur sita ki padhai wagera ke liye bhi toh maam mera jawab hai haa. Jaisa ki aapne mere bade se article mai padha hai ki i have supported neetu with finance also by paying her 3/4 of my salary so maam actually iska matlab ye nahi tha ki mere pass paise nahi the actually what i do is that i am a person who studied abroad for engineering and now i am doing a job in which i am the head of it department in a well known company every body knows but i don't wanna mention it here for safety. So yes my salary is very well as you can yourself think according to the post i told you. Maam mujhe job ke liye bhi kabhi koi dikkat nahi aati hai kyonki jaisa ki maine bataya mai abroad padhne gaya tha maine software engineering kari thi aur mere apne colledge mai kaafi ache ank aaye the. Maam abhi recently maine aur neetu decide bhi kiya hai ki hum kisi foreign country mai shift ho jayenge kuch hi mahino mai kyonki maam meri mummy neetu ko kaffi baar gussa karti hai jab padosi log ya unke dost ristedar meri maa se aake mere aur neetu ke baare mai kehte hai ki tere bete ne is widhwa se shaadi kar li mai hoti toh apne bete ko ghar se nikaal deti.
Toh maam aap samajh rahe hai na ki jab tak india mai hum rahenge tab tak sab ayesa hi hota rahega isliye hum abroad shift hone wale hai. Jaha ki hum full family ke sath ja rahe hai.me,my mother, father and neetu , somya and sita. Because sita is also facing some issues in school because i marry neetu as i can report against them but the normal thing is that the marry with a widow women is not seen good in our indian society so if i tried to stop some people will not end this thing. It will still continue. As sita will also have a good good education in abroad also.

Pranav
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Aur maam jaisa ek aur question hai ki jaisa aapne kaha ki neetu ko job ke liye. Toh maam maine jab usse pucha job ke silsile mai pucha tha toh woh kehne laggi ki mai job karungi toh sirf tumhari company mai tumhari secretory ke roop mai. Nahi toh nahi. But maam jab mai iss bare mai sochta hu toh mujhe lagta hai ki ye shayad meri professional life ko affect karega. Kyonki agar woh meri secretory banegi toh usmai mai office mai kaam ko time kab de paunga aur neetu ko jyada. Aur mera mind bhi disturb ho jayega. Toh mujhe lagta hai ki ya toh mujhe ek ache amount ki uske naam pe ek fd kara lani chahiye jisse ki usse kabhi koi dikkat na aaye aur usne pass har mahine 2 lack ke karib amount bhi aa jaye. Aap kya kehte ho maam?

Pranav
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Aur maam mai ye bhi jaanna chahta hu ki jaisa ki sita bhi ab meri hi bati hai toh woh hamare sath hi rahegi jo ki normal hai. Par maam mujhe ye samajh nahi aa raha hai ki mai neetu ke sath time kaise bitau kuch sujhav de. Kyonki hum sita ke samne aayesa toh kuch nahi kar sakte halaki woh choti hai par fir bhi. So my question here is that how can we do sex in presence of sita at home and she did not see anything. Because this thought i also might have when i was a teenager when we study reproduction chapter in schools i have a question at that time that how indian people do sex when they live with full family in one home. So maam whats your answer for this.

Pranav
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Pranav puttar,
Iss saari kahani main beta koi sawal nahi samaj aaya mujhe. Agar tum ek bachhi ke hone se itni kam privacy mil paa rahi hai to second bacche ke baad kaise manage karoge? If you are financially sound and have good money, please arrange for a nanny for a child aur uska apna kamra hoga aur raat ko usko dekhne ke liye nanny hogi to aap logon ko koi dikkat nahi aayegi.
Baaki beta tumne sab decide kar he liya hai apni wife ke baare main aur job ke baare main to main ab kya bolun. Tum khud samajdaar ho beta - all the best!

Auntyji
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maam my question is that how can i do sex with neetu as sita is with us. and as you said that we should not thinkk for new child for now toh ussi soch ko dhyan mai rakhte hue mai puch raha hu ki jaisa aap kh rahi hai ki hame sath time spend karna chahiye toh kaise kare sita bhi ghar par hi hoti hai woh koi bahut choti bachchi bhi nahi hai ki uske liye nanni rakhi jaye woh is saal 1st class mai aa gayi hai aur kafi intelligent hai woh kahi nahi jatti sirf hamare sath hi sotti hai aur time spend karti hai. toh hamme kyya karna chahiye takki hum sex bhi kar paye aur usse patta bhi na chale koi shak na ho

Pranav
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Pranav puttar,
Dekho beta, answer simple hai - bachi ko apna room do - uski mann pasand ka - dheere dheere usmein sulane ki koshish karo - 1-2 weeks main ho jayega -
bachha raat ko sota hai - jab woh so jaye to tum dono uske room main ja ke bhi sex kar sakte ho. Yeh to tum dono jyada better jaanoge - ki woh kab soti hai aur kab tum dono time spend kar sakte ho. All the best!

Auntyji
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Ok maam but do you have any advice for us if in case sita will catch both of us doing sex. What we can do and say her if in case sita saw us both

Pranav
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Maam you have not replied to my last question

Pranav
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Pranav puttar,
you should lock. your door when you have sex. ALWAYS. Else do not have sex. Simple smiley

Auntyji
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Maam can we do sex in front of sita? Maam jaisa ki sita 5 saal ki hai toh filhaal toh usse sex ki koi knowledge nahi hai toh kya mai usse ye kehke neetu ke sath sex kar sakta hu ki sita your mom and dad are going exercise this way? As we both do gym in our private gym and that is the only time she did not disturb us because she did not like doing yoga or exercises. So as with this thought I got this idea. From which we both neetu and me have no problem and we will not need to make her go out of our room. What we just need to do is that to start with the foreplay without kissing each other untill sita go from room because if we kiss each other she might got to know that we are enjoying not doing exercise. So we can start with foreplay and without lips and removing cloths and can do position sex after that and after seeing this she will surely go out the room thinking we are doing exercise and then we can do sex hapily. What you say on this maam?

Pranav
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Pranav sorry,
All this is getting too imaginative and too repetitive. Your questions makes no sense - having sex in front of a kid? Are you really serious or just asking questions for the sake of it?
Sorry, We do not want to engage in further questions on this topic.You can read my previous replies for this question. If you have any other query, please ask on a separate thread as we will not be replying here. This is our last response to this. Thank you!

Auntyji