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Posted by vishwa21

Namaste Madam, meri situation bahut complex aur bilkul ajeeb hai aur uska jimmedar bhi mai hi hu. I am single, 39 years, earnings aur qualifications bhi achhi hai, govt job hai theek thak. Shuru me marriage nahi ki kyuki siblings ki marriage dekhni thi. 4 saal pehle ek student se contact hua jo ki 15 years kam age ki hai. Tab mujhe aur use ek dusre ki age nahi pata thi. Achhe friend ho gaye. Kabhi physical relation nahi hua but genuine love ho gaya.
Marriage me itna delay hone ke baad, kai acche riste aane ke baad bhi mai uske bina life bahut mushkil pa raha hu. I think emotionally kafi connect ho gaya. Shaadi ke liye pucha to uski mother ne bola ki abhi 4-5 saal hai jo ki uske lihaj se sahi bhi hai. Uski mother ki bahut jaldi shaadi ho gayi thi to wo 30 se pehle shadi ke against hai. Mere paas to bilkul bhi samay nahi hai, but uske bina ek din bhi mushkil hota hai. Move on karna ya leave karne ke thought se hi khana peena band ho jata hai. Friends se discuss kiya, moveon ki kosish ki but not possible.
Sex ni hai mind me, bus jeevan bhar sath chahiye. Kisi se Shaadi kar lunga to sath chala jayega. Kuch ni samajh aa raha.
I know solution kisi ke paas ni hai.. but likh raha hu shayad koi solution mil hi jaiye.
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vishwa21 puttar
Namaste. kaise ho tum puttar? Maine tumhari problem padhi aur muje yeh lag raha hai ki samasya ka ek he hall hai - kya ladki ya tumhari girlfriend raazi hai? kya usko bhi tum se utna he pyaar aur apnapann hai? Kya woh bhi pareshan hai ki woh tumhare bina kaise rahegi? Kya usko bhi tumhara saath utna he desperately chaiye jitna ki tumko chahiye? Kya woh bhi tum se shaadi karne ke liye mentally ready hai?
Beta dekho agar to in sab sawalon ke jawab haan hain - to koi problem he nahi hai - tum dono agar balig ho aur raazi ho - to fir tum dono ko apne parents se baat kar ke shaadi ke baare main sochna chaiye.
Lekin puttar agar ladki ke mann main aisi koi feelings nahi hai aur woh abhi tum se shaadi nahi karna chahti to main fir to tumko definitely move on karne ki he salah dungi. Baaki tumhari marzi. to thoda socho ...ladki se baat karo - uski feelings bhi jaano. https://lovematters.in/hi/love-and-relationships/age-gap-in-romance-pass...

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