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Posted by Joshhamington

She did much more open flirting before, holding my shoulder, sending me an dm first, telling me to get closer to her, she told she stalks me everyday, sending an text saying im cute. Taking a pic of both of us without asking. Her friend tried to help her telling she liked me aka saying it to*me. Her friend also told me she was madly in love but didnt know to trust it or not. But*i heard she got asked by her friend why she was staring at me when she didnt have feelings anymore.

She propbaly knows i like her know since i messaged her first 4 times after she stoped the openly flirting. I couldnt do so much with her flirting because i froze all the time.I catch her staring/glancing at me everyday with this a lingering stare, sometimes she will give the corner of the eye stare. Sometimes she would look away when i catch her.

But she did a playful wink when i looked at her walking by, she randomly touches me once in a while like poking my head touching my arm, or the head scratch and sometimes uses the situation to touch me. She wrote she digs me. But she has guy friends she lowkey flirts or being friendly because she got many guy friends, wich makes me overthink. No idea if she is teasing me or what she is doing. She will sometimed try to talk to, and she walked into my feet on purpores when walking by?

A week ago she sat next to me (classroom) when i were talking with some friends and i see thats she is looking my way and my friends became silent. So i look in her eyes but she changed her eye direction i think before i turn against.

But when i text her she will respond within 5 min but she dosent try to ask questions back?I sent an msg on christmas just saying “Merry christmas (name) she replied right*away.But*when i sent “Happy new year (name) ❤” she left me on open, neither not replied yet

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moderator love-matters
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Oh my dear! Looks like it's a 'loves me or loves me not' situation for you. I can understand how you are feeling. One moment you feel excited and the other moment you are confused. It would certainly be helpful to have clarity about what she feels for you. Is it just friendship or is she interested in you. A question that I have for you is - do you also like her? See beta, when we form new friendships or romantic relationships, we can sometimes feel vulnerable because we do not want to be hurt, we want to be loved back and we want to be sure that the other person feels the same way as you would feel for that person. My advice to you would be to text her or meet her and ask her clearly about what she feels for you. Yes, it might not be easy for you to do this but you'll have to face your fear. And you know what, think about the possible reactions she might have for you. This can actually help you prepare better how to deal with her reaction. See beta, it is possible that she'll say she is not interested in you or she might say that she is indeed interested in you. Hearing a NO might hurt your feelings but you'll get clarity that you need right now. It could also be that you feel embarrassed but you know what having clarity is just going to work best for you because you won't be overthinking about her and what she 'might' feel for you. And yes, be assured, even if it is a NO and you bad, that feeling will also go. You need to understand that if it's a NO from her, it does not mean that you are not likeable. Perhaps, she's not the one. you'll likely come to realize that, if she's not interested in you, it doesn't mean you're not likeable; it just means she's not the one for you. So my dear, be bold and text her or meet and text her, whatever you are comfortable with, and ask her how she feels for you. And respect her decision. 
Take care beta!

Auntyji