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जिसके द्वारा दर्ज किया गया avi7781

मेरी शादी होने वाली है । एक सरकारी नौकरी वाला होने के नाते मैं भी चाहता था कि मुझे भी एक सुंदर बीवी मिले। एक लड़की मिली है जो बिल्कुल वैसी ही है जैसा मैं चाहता था लेकिन वो उतनी सुंदर नही है जितना मैं चाहता हूँ (ऐसा भी नही है कि बहुत ही सुंदर लड़की चाहता हूं) । लेकिन व्यवहार में अच्छी है । तो क्या मुझे शादी कर लेना चाहिए या नही

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avi7781 puttar,
Tumhe agar 2 choices milein - ek sundar aur bure vyavhaar wali ladki - aur doosri normal dikhne wali aur achhe vyavhaar wali ladki - to kya tum sundarta na hone ki wajah se achhe vyavhaar wali ladki ko reject kar doge? Nahi na? Dekho beta - sundar hona to kissi ke bass main nahi hai. Ho sakta hai uske mann main bhi kuch sapne hon - ki uska hone wala pati Shahrukh Khan ya Ranveer Singh jaisa dikhe - bahut zyada paise kamata ho - badi gaadi, bada bangla ho - usse koi ghar ka kaam na karwaye - bahut he badiya body ho uski - kuch bhi ho sakta hai haina? Kya tum bilkul waise ho sakte ho? Socho? Ladkiyon ke to bahut se khyal hote hai - movies main dekh dekh ke! Ho sakta hai uske bhi hon - ya fir kissi aur ladki ke? Kya tum bilkul perfect ho? Duniya ke sab se handsone ladkon main se ek ho? I am sure tum apni jagah theek hoge - lekin mere kehne ka matlab yeh hai ki har koi perfect nahi hota puttar. Aur khasskar sundar hona to bahut he temporary hai - aaj sundarta hai - kal ho sakta hai na ho - woh moti ho jaye, ya dhoop se rang sawla ho jaye - ya uske face pe koi daag ho jayein - fir tum kya usko divorce de doge? Nahi na?
So beta - yeh sundarta ke chakkar main zyada mat pado - har koi apne dhnag se sundar he hota hai - insaan ki aatma sundar honi chaiye - chehre ki sundarta to temporary hai.
Agar tumhari hone wali patni vyavhaar main achhi hai, tum dono ka aapsi talmein achha hai, tumko lagta hai ki tum dono ki aapas main khoob banegi - woh tumhara ghar aur bahar dono sambhal legi - tumhare parents ki respect karegi - aur tum bhi uske saath utna he respectfully pesh aaoge - usko pyar se rakhoge - uske bhi parents ki respect karoge - aur usko aisa mehsoos karwa sakte ho ki woh ek ghar chod ke - apne maa baap ko chodh ke kissi paraye ghar nahi ja rahi - balki apne dost ke saath rehne jaa rahi hai aur naye maa baap milenge use - to tumhe zaroor iss rishte ko aage bahdana chaiye.
Dekho - insaaan ki asli pehchaan uska vyavhaar he hai - woh kaisa dikhta hai - yeh sab to baad main sochte hain log. So meri baton pe gaur karna. Aur jo bhi faisla lena - soch samajh ke lena. Aur haan, jaate jaate ek aakhri baat - agar tumne usse shaadi karne ka faisla kar liya to future main usse kabhi yeh baat mat bolna ki tum to bahut sundar biwi chahte the - tumne to compromise kiya hai uske vyavhaar ke chalte ! Isse usko bahut chot pahunchegi puttar. Agar aisa kuch karna hai bhvishya main to please yeh rishta aage mat bhadana. Isko yahin pe khatam kar dena...
Lekin yeh yaad rakhna beta - kissi ko mukkamal jahan nahi milta - kabhi zamin to kabhi aasmaan nahi milta! yeh bhi padh lo - https://lovematters.in/hi/marriage/reasons-for-marriage

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